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I really thought that I knew it all – you know, back in the day when I was a ripe old age of 18! The time when being 30 and being responsible was decades away and when my biggest concern was how I was going to afford a big night out and to make sure that I remembered the guys name the next day.

And looking back, I did know everything then, for me, at that time. But the older and older that I am getting, I’m coming to the realisation that I know nothing of what I once thought, that everything can change and that the only thing that I can control, is my ability to have the correct outlook for myself in my life.


FUCK that’s deep.


You heard it right here.


Something though happened when I turned 30. Call it “a moment”, call it “my Oprah ahaha”, whatever it may have been – it got me thinking about my legacy.

We have only got one go of this thing we call life (that we remember or know of) and before I know it, I will be old, hopefully not forgotten and I do wish that my legacy will be that I was me, mainly kind and all the way made the very best of every experience. That I shared where I could, loved when it was the hardest and appreciated others.

Of all the big things that I have learnt in my shy 32 years, the big ones for me are these:


  • Love yourself, because until you are comfortable in your own skin, take care of yourself, you will not be able to do this for others.
  •  Accepting that EVERYONE has a story. Everyone has their own experience from where their outlook and opinion comes from. WE ARE ALL NOT THE SAME. Thank god. 
  • Don’t take other’s expectation of yourself as your own. Refer to the first point
  • When angry – find a small pottery object and smash it – it helps. 
  • If there is something that you dream of doing – do it. I know it’s clich├ęd but it is so true. Because I don’t want to be looking back at my life in 50 years watching someone emptying my shit bag wishing that I should have gone on that trip to India that I always wanted. 
  • That “The Notebook” story isn’t reality. If you find your best friend and a partner in life in one – you hit the lottery. 
  • Your children don’t define you 
  • Be kind. And manners are free. 
  • You can listen to other people’s advise but you do not need to take it
  • Your perception of life is mainly determined by your internal peace. – Find it. And when you do, please email me and let me know how you did it. I am a working progress peace finder. 
  • If you don’t know, ask. There is nothing silly about asking.
  • Forgive
  • Failure is sometimes just a hiccup in the road.


Have you ever thought about your legacy?

What would you like your legacy to be?












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