I really thought that I knew it all – you know, back in the day when I was a ripe old age of 18! The time when being 30 and being responsible was decades away and when my biggest concern was how I was going to afford a big night out and to make sure that I remembered the guys name the next day.
And looking back, I did know everything then, for me, at that time. But the older and older that I am getting, I’m coming to the realisation that I know nothing of what I once thought, that everything can change and that the only thing that I can control, is my ability to have the correct outlook for myself in my life.
FUCK that’s deep.
You heard it right here.
Something though happened when I turned 30. Call it “a moment”, call it “my Oprah ahaha”, whatever it may have been – it got me thinking about my legacy.
We have only got one go of this thing we call life (that we remember or know of) and before I know it, I will be old, hopefully not forgotten and I do wish that my legacy will be that I was me, mainly kind and all the way made the very best of every experience. That I shared where I could, loved when it was the hardest and appreciated others.
Of all the big things that I have learnt in my shy 32 years, the big ones for me are these:
- Love yourself, because until you are comfortable in your own skin, take care of yourself, you will not be able to do this for others.
- Accepting that EVERYONE has a story. Everyone has their own experience from where their outlook and opinion comes from. WE ARE ALL NOT THE SAME. Thank god.
- Don’t take other’s expectation of yourself as your own. Refer to the first point
- When angry – find a small pottery object and smash it – it helps.
- If there is something that you dream of doing – do it. I know it’s clichéd but it is so true. Because I don’t want to be looking back at my life in 50 years watching someone emptying my shit bag wishing that I should have gone on that trip to India that I always wanted.
- That “The Notebook” story isn’t reality. If you find your best friend and a partner in life in one – you hit the lottery.
- Your children don’t define you
- Be kind. And manners are free.
- You can listen to other people’s advise but you do not need to take it
- Your perception of life is mainly determined by your internal peace. – Find it. And when you do, please email me and let me know how you did it. I am a working progress peace finder.
- If you don’t know, ask. There is nothing silly about asking.
- Failure is sometimes just a hiccup in the road.
Have you ever thought about your legacy?
What would you like your legacy to be?
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